All four DBT modules, Mindfulness, Distress Tolerance, Emotion Regulation, and Interpersonal Effectiveness, in one interactive reference. Find the skill you need, understand it, practise it, and log it.
🧘 Mindfulness
The foundation of all DBT skills. Mindfulness teaches you to observe your present-moment experience without judgment, creating a pause between stimulus and response that is the essence of recovery.
WHATWhat Skills, What to Do
Three core mindfulness actions that form the foundation of present-moment awareness.
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Observe
Notice your experience without words, just observe what is present in your senses and mind.
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Describe
Put words to what you observe, "I notice a thought that…", without interpreting or judging.
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Participate
Throw yourself fully into present activity without self-consciousness. Be in the moment.
HOWHow Skills, How to Do It
Three qualities that define how to practise mindfulness effectively.
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Non-judgmentally
Observe without labelling experiences as good or bad. "A craving is present", not "I'm weak."
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One-mindfully
Focus on one thing at a time. When distracted, gently return attention. Multitasking is the enemy of mindfulness.
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Effectively
Do what works in the situation, not what is "right" or "fair." Focus on your goals, not your ego.
WISEWise Mind
The integration of emotional mind and rational mind, the place of intuitive wisdom that knows what is right for you.
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Emotional Mind
Feelings dominate thinking and behaviour. Important but unreliable as sole guide.
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Rational Mind
Logical, fact-based thinking. Important but misses emotional reality.
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Wise Mind
The balanced integration, knowing in your gut what is true and right. Recovery lives here.
🛡️ Distress Tolerance
Skills for surviving crisis moments without making things worse. When the urge to use is overwhelming, distress tolerance skills buy you time and reduce intensity without substances.
TIPPBody-Based Crisis Survival
Rapidly changes body chemistry to reduce overwhelming emotional arousal in minutes.
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Temperature
Dive your face into cold water (or hold ice) for 30 seconds. Activates the dive reflex, slowing heart rate rapidly.
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Intense Exercise
Run, do jumping jacks, or sprint for 5–10 minutes. Metabolises stress hormones immediately.
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Paced Breathing
Breathe in for 4 counts, out for 6. Longer exhale activates parasympathetic nervous system.
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Progressive Relaxation
Tense each muscle group 5 seconds, release. Move from feet to face. Reduces physical tension rapidly.
ACCEPTSDistraction Skills
Distract from crisis with Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, Sensations.
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Activities
Engage in absorbing activities, exercise, hobbies, cleaning, calling someone.
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Contributing
Do something for someone else. Acts of contribution shift focus outward and improve mood.
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Comparisons
Remember harder times you have survived. Compare your current coping to past coping.
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Emotions (opposite)
Create an emotion opposite to the painful one, watch comedy, read something uplifting.
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Push Away
Mentally set the problem aside temporarily, build a box for it and agree to return later.
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Thoughts
Replace crisis thoughts with neutral ones, count objects, do a puzzle, recite something memorised.
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Sensations
Use strong sensations, hold ice, taste something sour, feel a cold shower, to interrupt the crisis state.
RADICALRadical Acceptance
Fully accepting reality as it is, not approving of it, but stopping the war against it. The antidote to suffering caused by non-acceptance.
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Observe resistance
Notice when you are fighting reality, "It shouldn't be this way," "This is unbearable."
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Remind yourself
"The cause of this moment is the entire past. This moment is exactly what it is."
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Practise willing
Relax your body, open hands, soften face. Willingness is the physical counterpart of acceptance.
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Cope ahead
Practise acceptance for future events you know will be difficult before they arrive.
PROSPros & Cons of Acting on Urges
Think through the full consequences of acting on the urge to use, before acting. Write it out to engage rational mind during emotional crisis.
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Pros of acting on urge
Short-term relief, escape, numbing. Write them honestly.
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Cons of acting on urge
Lost sober time, shame, consequences, health, relationships.
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Pros of resisting urge
Continued sobriety, self-respect, evidence of capability.
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Cons of resisting urge
Discomfort, difficulty, but temporary and manageable.
❤️ Emotion Regulation
Skills for understanding, labelling, reducing vulnerability to, and changing unwanted emotional responses. Emotional dysregulation is the primary engine of addiction, these skills directly address it.
PLEASEReduce Emotional Vulnerability
Reduce vulnerability to emotional mind by taking care of your basic physical needs consistently.
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treat PhysicaL illness
See a doctor when sick. Untreated illness increases emotional vulnerability dramatically.
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balanced Eating
Eat regular, nutritious meals. Hunger is a primary emotion dysregulator.
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Avoid mood-altering substances
Caffeine, alcohol, and other substances directly impair emotion regulation capacity.
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balanced Sleep
Sleep deprivation is one of the most powerful emotion dysregulators. Protect your sleep.
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get Exercise
Regular exercise is as effective as medication for mood regulation. 20–30 minutes daily.
OPPOpposite Action
Change an emotion by acting opposite to its action urge. Particularly powerful for shame, fear, anger, and depression in recovery.
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Identify the emotion
Name the emotion and its intensity. "I feel shame at level 8."
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Identify the action urge
What does this emotion urge you to do? Shame urges hiding. Fear urges avoidance.
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Act opposite, all the way
For shame: approach, share, connect. For fear: approach the feared situation gradually. For depression: activate, engage.
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Repeat until emotion shifts
One opposite action rarely changes the emotion immediately. Repeated practice is required.
CHECKCheck the Facts
Ask whether your emotional response fits the actual facts of the situation, or whether interpretations and assumptions are driving the emotion.
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What is the emotion?
Name it precisely. Fear? Shame? Anger? Sadness?
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What prompted it?
What actual event triggered the emotion? Describe facts only, not interpretations.
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What are your interpretations?
What assumptions, interpretations, or catastrophic thoughts are you adding to the facts?
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Does the emotion fit the facts?
If yes, use problem-solving. If no, use opposite action or distress tolerance.
COPECope Ahead
Prepare in advance for emotionally difficult situations by rehearsing your coping response before the situation occurs.
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Describe the situation
Identify the upcoming situation you are anxious about, a family event, difficult conversation, trigger location.
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Identify the emotions
What emotions do you anticipate? What are the specific triggers you expect?
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Plan the coping response
Which DBT skills will you use? When exactly will you use them?
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Rehearse in your mind
Vividly imagine yourself successfully using the skills in the situation.
🤝 Interpersonal Effectiveness
Skills for maintaining relationships, self-respect, and effectiveness in interactions, particularly essential in recovery where relationships are both a primary support and a primary trigger.
DEAR MANGet What You Need
For making requests and saying no effectively, getting your objectives while maintaining the relationship.
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Describe
Describe the situation with facts only. "When you do X…"
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Express
Express your feelings about the situation. "I feel Y…"
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Assert
Ask for what you want or say no clearly. "I would like Z."
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Reinforce
Explain why compliance benefits the other person.
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Mindful
Stay focused on your goal. Don't be distracted by attacks or defensiveness.
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Appear Confident
Confident voice, eye contact, posture, even when you don't feel confident.
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Negotiate
Be willing to give to get. Ask what the other person needs.
GIVEKeep the Relationship
For maintaining and improving important relationships, especially critical in early recovery when relationships need rebuilding.
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Gentle
No attacks, threats, or judging. Soft tone and approach even during conflict.
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Interested
Listen. Ask questions. Show genuine interest in the other person's experience.
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Validate
Acknowledge the other person's feelings and perspective, even when you disagree.
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Easy Manner
Be light, use humour when appropriate. Smile. An easy manner lubricates difficult conversations.
FASTKeep Your Self-Respect
For maintaining self-respect in interactions, particularly important in recovery where self-worth is being rebuilt.
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Fair
Be fair to yourself AND the other person. Don't sacrifice yourself, but don't exploit either.
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No Apologies
Don't apologise for existing, having needs, or disagreeing. Apologise for genuine wrongs only.
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Stick to values
Don't compromise your values to please others or avoid conflict. Integrity is recovery-critical.
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Truthful
Don't lie or exaggerate. Honesty, especially in recovery, is a foundation of self-respect.
📝 Skills Practice Log
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Log each time you use a DBT skill to build your practice record.
DBT in Addiction Recovery: Why It Works
Dialectical Behaviour Therapy was developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan at the University of Washington, originally for individuals with borderline personality disorder and chronic suicidality. Its application to addiction treatment followed naturally, as the core problem DBT addresses, emotional dysregulation driving impulsive, destructive behaviour, is precisely the mechanism that underlies most substance use disorders.
A comprehensive meta-analysis published in Behaviour Research and Therapy found that DBT-based interventions for substance use disorders produced significant reductions in substance use, with effects superior to standard treatment across multiple outcome measures. The four-module structure of DBT provides a complete skill set that addresses every dimension of addiction maintenance: the cognitive distortions CBT targets, the physiological arousal body-based skills address, the emotional reactivity emotion regulation skills manage, and the relationship difficulties interpersonal skills resolve.
The Dialectic at the Heart of Recovery
The "dialectical" in DBT refers to the synthesis of opposites, specifically, the balance between acceptance and change. This dialectic is profoundly relevant to addiction recovery. Recovery requires simultaneously accepting the reality of addiction and the damage it has caused, while also committing to radical change. It requires accepting yourself exactly as you are, while also recognising that you must change to survive. Holding these two truths simultaneously, without collapsing into either self-condemnation or complacency, is the psychological achievement that DBT builds toward.
Radical acceptance, one of the most powerful DBT distress tolerance skills, embodies this dialectic. It does not mean approving of addiction or its consequences. It means stopping the war against reality long enough to make different choices. As Linehan wrote: "Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional." The suffering caused by fighting reality compounds pain. Accepting it removes that additional layer and frees psychological energy for change.
💡 Recovery Tip: Start with TIPP and PLEASE, the body-based skills. They work fastest and require the least cognitive capacity, making them ideal for early recovery when neurological healing reduces cognitive bandwidth. Once these feel natural, add ACCEPTS, Opposite Action, and DEAR MAN. Build your DBT skill repertoire gradually, one skill at a time.
Frequently Asked Questions
Dialectical Behaviour Therapy is a comprehensive cognitive-behavioural treatment developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan that emphasises the balance between acceptance and change. It teaches four core skill sets, mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness, that directly address the emotional dysregulation driving most substance use. DBT has strong evidence for reducing substance use and improving emotional regulation in addiction recovery populations.
For intense cravings, start with TIPP, particularly the Temperature component (cold water on the face) and Intense Exercise. These physiologically reduce emotional arousal within minutes, making other skills more accessible. Then use ACCEPTS for distraction and the Pros and Cons skill to engage rational thinking. If the craving is linked to a specific emotion, identify it and use Opposite Action. For urge surfing (riding the craving wave), combine mindfulness Observe and Describe skills with Paced Breathing from TIPP.
CBT focuses primarily on identifying and changing distorted thought patterns and maladaptive behaviours. DBT was developed from CBT and adds strong emphases on mindfulness, radical acceptance, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness, skills particularly relevant for people with intense emotional experiences. DBT also includes the philosophical framework of dialectics, the balance of acceptance and change. In practice, both are valuable and complementary. See the CBT Worksheet Generator for structured cognitive work alongside DBT skills practice.
Self-guided DBT skill-building using structured references and workbooks is evidence-supported and can produce meaningful benefits, particularly for distress tolerance and mindfulness skills. However, DBT was designed to be taught in a skills training group with individual therapy support, the social learning component and individual coaching are significant parts of its effectiveness. Use this reference as a complement to professional DBT therapy, not as a replacement. Share your practice log with your therapist to integrate self-guided practice with clinical support.
Radical acceptance is the complete acknowledgement of reality as it is, including the reality of having an addiction, the consequences of past use, and the necessity of change, without fighting, denying, or being consumed by it. It does not mean liking or approving of reality. In recovery, radical acceptance is applied to accepting the reality of addiction without using that acceptance as permission to continue using, and accepting past consequences without using guilt and shame as reasons to relapse.